As an empath, the expression “you can cut the tension with a knife” is far too familiar for me. This directly correlates to my current stage in life, the ever so fun, quintessential, existential, midlife-crisis.
BTW, a personal observation here: I unconsciously use self-deprecating humor and lower my vibration due to my lack of self-worth. Well, to that point: I am consciously on a journey to plant the seeds of my value and watch them bloom into evergreens in my enchanted forest of self-love, embracing the beautiful person I am.
Finding the strength to leave toxic, codependent relationships, is extremely difficult, especially when you love the person. For those of us who identify as vulnerable empaths, I have found the fundamental tenets of Stoicism to be the roadmap in navigating my path towards self-love and independence.
Recognize What You Can Control
At the core of Stoicism lies the wisdom to distinguish between what is within our control and what is not. In a toxic environment, it’s common to feel overwhelmed by external circumstances. By focusing our energy on aspects we can influence — our thoughts, actions, and responses — we regain a sense of agency. This fundamental principle becomes the bedrock upon which the other Stoic virtues rest.
